Today I’m thrilled to share a post with you from my friend Mary Geisen. While we’ve only met online in the last few months, we’ll be meeting in person soon as roommates at the Allume Conference. I consider my introduction to her from another friend, Holly Barrett, one of God’s sweet blessings in my life.
As young moms, it’s often easy to doubt our ability, knowledge, or tactics when it comes to parenting with purpose and cultivating a God-centered home.
Hearing from moms “on the other side” is often balm for our weary souls. I hope her words of wisdom bless you as much as they did me.
If I were to describe myself right now, I would say I’m a well-seasoned traveler of life. I have experience, good and bad, and a wonderful job that is mine for life.
As my two young boys, one tow-headed and curious and the other one with big brown eyes with a hint of mischief, have grown into men – I also have grown up along with them. The greatest job I have ever had the honor to hold is that of a parent and the name “mom” was a gift I was given 27 years ago.
I will affirm that being a mom is hard, dirty work, but when you reach the point of setting them free, the rewards are amazing.
Intentional time and teaching will prepare your children for the day that the cocoon is open and the butterfly wings away.
I will assure you that being a parent is a title you hold for life and even as your children move from childhood to adulthood you have the honor of giving them the gift of time. Children never stop needing their parents.
The look of parenting on the other side is one of a listener, a giver of advice only when asked, always extending grace and forgiveness and a giver of the unconditional love that you have always shared with your children.
As a parent on the other side, the best advice I can share is the following:
1. Always give yourself grace each day.
When you are exhausted due to lack of sleep or daily routines that feel like a never ending treadmill, step back from perfection and look to what is important. The childhood moments will soon be gone so forget your chores and immerse yourself in kid time that you can never get back.
2. Learn from other mothers around you.
My most memorable lessons were the ones from my own mom. She taught me how to focus on your children, to always listen and to be present in the moment. What lessons can you learn from your own mom or other women who pave the way before you?
3. Be intentional in teaching your children well.
What values and beliefs do you want your children to carry with them into adulthood? There are lessons in every moment of your day-seize them and model, teach or prepare them for the future during these times.
4. Prepare your children’s hearts with the Word of Truth and let Jesus enter into your daily routines.
A scheduled time to gather and soak in Jesus and each other will teach your children how to center their lives for adulthood.
As a new mother, a mother of in betweens or a mother of adult children, your job is an honor and a gift that you were given by God when your children were born. Everyday is a new day to start fresh and do your best.
Carry God’s truth with you each day!
Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth. 2 Timothy 2:15
Mary Geisen is the momma of two amazing, grown sons, blessed to be a teacher of 3rd graders from August to sometime in June each year and a woman seeking God in the ordinary routines of life. Lover of the beach, coffee and long walks outside are coupled with a love for all children resulting in a momma tiger advocacy to show them they are loved. God’s story for her life blossomed into written words that begged to be shared with others. The power of God’s words has inspired her journey of healing and drawing closer to God through the power of grace.
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